Motivational Tuesday

You might work hard, but that is not enough in order to succeed. If you are only creative, still is not even close. There has to be a mixture of the Hard Work you put in and your Creativity that will be beneficial for your success. Blend those two well and you are "Ready to Rule the World".

You might have problems going on in your life but there is nothing new about that. There will always be something that will keep you back. The point is for you to take a chance and make things better. You must be able to make steps ahead and not back. There is nothing wrong with moving forward and trying new things that could make you a better person of what you were yesterday or the day before.

I could sit there and complain about things that "I wish" I had but I don't. Or wishing I was able to get what I dream of by doing nothing. If you don't make a plan and stick to it you will not make it happen. But first you should know what you want to do and then find ways to do it.  Start saying "I will" and mean it. You wish but you don't do it? How is it supposed to be done then? Learn your desires and what you want to do, or what you have to deal with. Make it happen. There is always a solution for everything.

You want to succeed. That is your goal and dream. You have to keep trying and trying and trying. You might fail once or twice, but is not the end. When you fail, you realize that you didn't want that to happen. It did though, and that's okay. There is nothing wrong with failure. Everyone fails at least once in their life. The good thing is, that during the failure you will learn more stuff about your self. But, you have to remember that failure is not your destination, it becomes your option when you give up. Unless you tried everything that you could is not a failure.

The future of your destination is full of dreams you make. I am a dreamer. You can start laughing, but you know that I am not the only one. You laugh now, but without dreams there are no goals and you have nothing to look forward to succeed in. I guarantee you that a dreamer is the one who will take the future in his/her hand and make things happen. I am a dreamer, because I have this desire to learn new things, take steps forward and be able to let you know in the end "I made it". You said I couldn't. Here I am now. I am a dreamer, because out there someone else is dreaming of a home that never had, or people that never had the chance to meet and change his/her life. If you do not dream of your future, there is nothing to be excited about.

Have a lovely Tuesday and make sure you make your dreams come true.

Love,

Crystal

xoxo

Fairytales, Romance and Cheating.

Once upon a time... No, not really.. This is not a fairytale. There is not such thing as fairytales with happy endings and the perfect prince nor the perfect princess. We are the ones who tell a story, because we create our own fairytale. Is not always a happy or a sad ending, but one thing is sure - we decide what the ending will be like. Fairytales lead to romance, but isn't the romance that should lead into a fairytale? Yet again, does romance still exists in men and women's lives? 

Well, life is not a black and white movie with steam trains, where the man or the woman awaits at the train station with kids, or flowers and a cute dog. Nowadays, people won't even wait by the train station for someone, pretty much because the romance is faded away. But is it really the romance withered, or it all depends on the character and lifestyle of someone? Is cheating one of the reasons that romance vanished; and the reason to 'crush' a fairytale? Why do people cheat? Oh, this is going to be a hell of a ride. But remember, this is my opinion and I write through my own view from what I see and experience in my life. 

So here is how things started that lead me into writing about this subject. I was having a really interesting conversation with a guy friend of mine and ended up playing the truth or dare game. Now this sounds weird, but we ended up just answering 'truth' questions. I believe that 'truth' is a dare by itself, just because you end up knowing things about a person that you would never dare ask unless it was for a game. 

As a woman who 'seeks' for romance I never really had any of it in my life so far to be honest. I would like for once a guy that I'm dating to pop up at my door, bring me flowers, give me a kiss and take me out to a lovely dinner. I mean, there is nothing wrong with wanting flowers that would make you feel special, right? Well, apparently, men take the whole romance subject differently than women. And am not saying it because of the conversation I had with my friend, but because he was NOT the only man I 've met who said "I'm not a romantic guy." I only met one guy so far who was very romantic, and this actually happened! I remember him saying: "I wish there were still steam trains with that weird sound, so I would wait for you by the train station with my dog and give you a quick kiss when I see you." Still no flowers, but not complaining; at least he was there with his dog waiting and I got the kiss! So is not that the romance is gone, is because there are only a few men left that still believe in it. Unfortunately, there are more women in this planet than men which makes you wonder whether you will find a romantic guy or not. 

Relationships do not last, and one of the few reasons is because that spark and romance is not existent. For example, a woman will make you dinner and wait for you to get home every single night. So why not show your appreciation and love for her by doing something similarly good and nice? I get the fact that roses are expensive, but you bet we worth it once in a while! If a woman will tell you she doesn't like flowers and all the romantic stuff, she is totally lying. Once in a while, even those women would like to feel some romance. For me, romance keeps the spark in a relationship alive, plus it will not make me get bored and I will feel special. I like a guy who can keep me up on my feet and remind me everyday why is it important to him that I am in his life. So when I respect you and try to make things work in order to be in a healthy relationship, you should do the same. 

Speaking about respect and romance, there comes the question "Why would I ever cheat on you, when you wouldn't do it to me?" The answer that most men and women would give you is the one "Because you don't really love me." Now that is one hell of a lie. I can sit here and tell you a whole number of 'love stories' who ended up being broken just because one of them cheated.  However, I will stick only to one and that is my own. When you are in a relationship, as I said above, you want to feel that spark and also feel you are special to the one you are with. Women like to feel that a guy would do anything to stay by their side, so you think that a guy would actually try it. 

Men and women can be busy and at times they will give "space" in the relationship without realizing it, which immediately takes the romance away. Now, when at least one of them is busy and does not have time for the relationship the other will start wondering and seeking for attention. Attention will lead to cheating and cheating will result into breaking the trust; but mostly the relationship.  Therefore, trust can be earned back and the relationship could work. But what if it would happen again and how should someone react? Well, it all depends on the person and how he/she deals with a situation like this. I mean if a guy catch you in a bed with someone else, there is nothing to be discussed. When, however, you are true to your relationship and have the power to admit what you have done, then that is where a part of the trust is slightly broken, but also earned! You admit you made a mistake, you are willing to work in order to earn that trust back and you show to that person that you do love them. But of course, you make sure you are not going to make the same mistake again, just because he does not deserve it and you would not like it if he would do it to you! 

In contrast between the two, women cheat if there is something wrong with the relationship; guys cheat if there is an opportunity. In my opinion, this is not completely true, considering the fact that it could be  all the other way around - guys cheat if there is something wrong with the relationship; women cheat if there is an opportunity. We all know that things changed a lot and women have become more powerful and independent. You cannot always blame men about everything that is happening, since us women can make things very difficult at times. We can also work many times a day, while the guy works less or not at all, so we should be able to understand both sides. However, some of us do, some of us don't, because we always try to find reasons to start a 'fight'. 

For a relationship to work there should all be in there; romance, trust, respect, faithfulness and the ability to try and give everything you have in order for it to work. Do and try new things. There is nothing wrong in trying and reminding the person you love all the reasons you loved them in the first place. If the spark and all these are gone, there will be nothing left standing and you will then start wondering and wishing that things were different. We do not get a lot of chances, so we make the one we have worth it! If you want to be respected; show respect. If you want to be trusted, you should earn it. When anyone of the two makes a step back then the other will start making steps back, so it could never work. Both should try as much. It wouldn't be fair if the one was always trying to make the relationship alive while the other just 'goes along'. 

I probably say this all the time, but be true to yourself in order to be able and be true to someone else. It all first starts with how you treat yourself and how much you respect You. When you know what you want and you are able to adjust with who you are, you will then manage with being in a relationship. Don't be afraid to give away a part of you in order to be loved. For then, you will be loved for the right reasons, and the relationship would be healthy and lasting. Be fun and never give up. There is always an answer behind every question as much as a solution behind every problem. Make your fairytale worth all the happy endings in the world, but make sure the fairytale is how You wanted it to be and stop looking for perfection such as the prince or the princess...

Love,

Crystal

xoxo

"Sveart - Saint Vincent European Art" Competition

I would like if you could help a friend of mine. It will only take a few seconds. So, he designed the above amazing illustration/design for the "Sveart - Saint Vincent European Art" competition in Italy.  His picture represents "The movement of Art". So the only thing you have to do is follow this link for the poll : http://www.easypolls.net/poll.html?p=50b4d01ce4b007bdc40afbd0 , scroll down, find his name and tick so he can win. "Menelaos Vakhou and The movement of Art."

Thank you for your time and have a lovely day.

Love,

Crystal

xoxo

All you need is....LOVE...

 There are different kinds of Love. But the important thing is to be able to Love. Love gives you hope and strength in order to continue the journey of life. Love means you will get hurt, you will cry; but Love also means you will feel happy, you will laugh and smile. Be surrounded by people that show their love to you and who are afraid to lose you. Is not about who says he/ she loves you. Is about who shows it every time and in every chance they get. To love is nothing, but to love and be loved is Everything. All things in life get complicated, because sometimes we make them that way, but is in our hands to make it all go away. Never stop showing your love to the people who deserve it. You will regret it when you won't, considering that you never took the chance to do it. When you love someone you let them know by any means. You show it. You make them feel that you do mean it and never let a moment go by without reminding to them how important it is to you that they are still next to you. 

There have been moments when I never said it and never showed it to people I had by my side. Then, the next second they were gone and I couldn't let them know. This is something that will always stay with me. They say never regret what you do, but that is not the case in a subject like "Love". Everyone needs it, but yet not everyone gets it. Is not a material; is like oxygen, because you need it to live. I read a quote somewhere, saying: "They say love is important, but I think Oxygen is more important." Anyone can make a statement like that, but deep down he/she does not really believe it. You say things like this, because you are hurt, and is okay to get hurt. It is part of life; to get hurt and hurt other people. 

Everyone thinks is expert when it comes to Love, but the real deal is that few people actually get to know what real Love is. Love is to stand by the person you care about; stick with them no matter if things get good or bad. Love is compromising and letting someone into your life in order to let you into theirs. Love is accepting the person regardless if you do not like everything about them. Love is showing. Love is letting them know. Love is to not be afraid to love. 

All you need is Love. When you love you learn to give; and you should never get tired of giving. Love will teach you to be strong and accept; but also face your fears. You only need Love, because is the only guaranteed real happiness. In every bad situation or problems you will need that love. 'It' will help you get back up and keep moving, just because there is nothing more powerful than being loved and love back.  Make every moment of it count. Do not be afraid to show love to anyone who might need it. Some people do not get to feel it as much as some others so make it count. You will then feel their love and real appreciation. Never bring people down, because life is a circle and whatever you do comes right back at you. Have faith and hope. Believe in Love so that Love will believe in you. Is the best feeling you will ever get to feel while you are alive. Love.. Love as much as you can.! Make your heart pick up every broken piece and show everyone your real love for them. You will not have many chances to do it, so never leave it for tomorrow. 

Love,

Crystal

xoxo

It's Monday again. . .

Well hello there,

It's Monday so hold on. Is gonna be the last week of November, but a new week indeed. Be strong and keep smiling.

If you are having problems with your relationship or if you feel hurt do not worry. Things get better, you just have to believe. If you believe in your relationship things will work out in the end; as long as you both want it. No one is perfect, you just have to look behind the imperfections and stick by them. It's a new week. Maybe you would like to get flowers to your lady as a pre-Christmas gift or just try and light up her week. If you are a lady, give your man a nice warm night, so as he 'll forget the pressure of work for some time.

Every end of any year, we always look back at this time thinking and remembering what was going on last year. Well let's be honest. Last year was either a bad or a good one. We always have to keep our most amazing and precious memories. Leave the past behind; and be grateful for what you have today. We learn from the mistakes, we take them as lessons and we move on for better and bigger things. Never stop believing in yourselves and be proud for who you are. Be kind and always smile, regardless what is happening in your lives.

Well some people listen to their heart. Others listen to their logic and there are those who they just trust their instincts. I am one of those who trust their instincts and I suggest it to you, because is so much better and easier. Not exactly easier, but is something you never regret in the end. Even if it is for a business deal or job related, maybe love problems, or general problems trust your instincts and do what you thing is the best choice to get further. It's good to take chances once in a while.

Whatever you do not stop believing. Never look back and always trust your instincts. It's a good start for your week. May you have a lovely week and do not forget to smile. :)

Love,

Crystal.

xoxo

Sunday quotes.

Words do not always express what we want to say out loud, but ...

No matter what is going on in your life ...

There are times that you are trying to find yourself a place that you belong to. But, while you are trying you wish ...:

They say simple is boring, but for me ...















Have a lovely Sunday all :)

Love,
Crystal.
xoxo

The truth about Me and You.

Trying to get your spot in a new world is not easy. I haven't written in here for like ages and I want to apologize. I will be more active now.

So the real deal is that I moved to London a couple of months ago, and I have been trying to get a job since then.  I graduated this summer and is actually really difficult to get one if you don't have any experience in the UK. It gets stressful and upsetting, so I decided to start doing what I used to love few years back, before I even moved in the UK, like 4 years ago.  

I really loved sketching and drawing, because it would "block" the rest of the world and I could just get lost while I created my drawings. I tried Graphic Designs, I was learning Fine Art and I was into Fashion Figures and Designs. Even though I studied something else (English Literature), this is a way of expression and letting your emotions to be shown in the drawings. I love writing and speaking with 'freedom' of speech, which lead me into studying English Literature. I also adore books!!! Books, writing and speaking is also an Art of expression.

However, there are times that writing and trying to express your emotions cannot be written in a piece of paper so you can try different things. This is why I love sketching and drawing. I'm not an expert to it, but I do try due to the few lessons I had. It's a whole other level and is a more creative side of a person who talks less than expressing herself sometimes. I am a straight forward person and no matter what I will say my opinion even if it's harsh or raw. I was never like that; I used to lie to people when I was younger, but not because I wanted to, but because I thought no one would like me if I was telling the truth. That changed. I learned to be true to my self so I can be true to the people I meet.

Knowing people who have jobs that hate to do is something I'm afraid I will end up with. They are studying, or even those who don't have the chance to go to college are trying to get their place in a world where it can be a happy or a sad ending. People who love their jobs and what they do are those I admire the most. They see the chance and they take it without thinking 'I will succeed' or 'I will fail'. There is not succeeding if you don't fail at least once. If you fail more than once, you just have to keep trying. Trying to be positive in order to succeed, occasionally doesn't always work. Every now and then it gets harder and you feel like nothing is working, but you have to be able to keep trying. Nothing ever comes easy, but when it arrives you will gain your confidence back and then you will succeed. 

From time to time, people will test your strength and your abilities, not because they are trying to bring you down, but because they know you can do it. You will eventually realize it and you will be grateful. I am grateful for what I have and what I don't have. Not all of us find everything right there in front of our feet from others who have worked their butts off to be where they are today. Not all of us get opportunities easy. We have to work hard and make our own path in the world. There is always a light at the end of all tunnels and I am looking forward to it. I still believe in me and I do hope for everyone who is trying to find a place in the world, to make it until the end.

My mom keeps saying "Don't worry, everything will be okay. It can't get worse and if it gets it can always get better." She does have a point and I admire her for having the strength and always be positive regardless everything that is happening. The truth is, not everyone has the support from their families in what they do, and some people don't even have families, so I am grateful for mine. Always been and always will be. My mom is my biggest fan since I can remember. When I told her and showed her that I started drawing again I saw that sparkle in her eyes and felt how proud she was. She always used to say that 'despite what is going to happen in your life, never forget what you can do and how many things you can achieve'. So true, but yet somewhere along the way you forget and you just give up things you love to do. Like me, there is always time to get back to it and try again. It will be a good feeling and it can change your 'luck', just because you start believing in yourself.

For the past few weeks I have been drawing and sketching and even painting as you can see below (all the pictures are my drawings/paintings/sketches). Not all of my close people know that I can draw really well sometimes and that's something I haven't really figured out why. Maybe, it's because it was something that was included in my past, a subject that I don't like to talk about. But now that is becoming my present I really want to show it off and say I can do that without caring what reaction I will get. I brought 'back' a piece of myself I used to love and makes me think that I can do whatever I like and be proud for it.

What I tried to say in this post is that regardless what is happening in your life never give up on things that make you feel proud and happy. You deserve to feel happy and be proud of who you are. No one can take your dreams away and there is not a person that should make you feel bad for things you love to do.  Never give up on YOU and always make the best out of yourself in order to become a better person. You may not always feel like things are going well, but it will only get better. Keep trying and stay positive. The only thing you get by being negative is bad mood and be upset. It's okay sometimes not to be okay, but things will get better. I promise you! :)

I hope you liked my post and feel free to comment :)


Love,
Crystal
xoxo